Kimmel is our seasoned guide into a world that, unless we are guys, we barely know exists. As he walks with us through dark territories, he points out the significant and reflects on its meaning. Just as Reviving Ophelia introduced readers to the culture of teenage girls, Guyland takes us to the land of young men."
—Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia
"An absolute bombshell of a book. A disturbing, but mandatory wake-up call for all of us who are boys, love boys or raise boys. Not only does it answer the question “What exactly are they doing?” as they appear joined at the hip in sloppy, boozy, apartments watching endless sporting events and video games, but it also helps us separate what is normative and what is truly worrisome. Good kids are turned around rather easily, and Kimmel helps us enter into the space these kids inhabit and show us how to help move them along the road to real adulthood.
Growing up is hard. But if our young men insist on staying boys, then not only are they in trouble, but so are all of us. Society simply cannot function under the fragile, self-centered and amoral charge of the puer eternus."
—Madeline Levine, Ph.D., author of The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids
"The hard-drinking, bullying, video-game-tuned, some-time gun-toting guys Michael Kimmel interviewed in cities across the country were not young denizens of the so–called underclass. Most were white, middle class and college educated. But as the job market tightens around them, these young men have co-created Guyland, a macho culture which ironically guarantees their future as its discards. In this hugely brave, compassionate and important book, Kimmel calls on us all to see the boy in the pseudo-man, to break the silence with which we surround them, and do what it takes to help them grow into real men."
—Arlie Hochschild, author of The Second Shift, The Time Bind, and The Commercialization of Intimate Life
"For anyone who has ever longed to know what's really going on in a young man's life, rejoice: Guyland is a compassionate, unflinching dispatch from deep in the heart of young masculinity. Required reading for people who raise, teach, and love guys."
—Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls
"In this powerful book, Michael Kimmel finds that we're raising a generation of Prodigal Sons, lost on the road to manhood and wasting their substance. Afraid of competing with competent young women and confused about how to become responsible men, they retreat into self-congratulation, exploitative sex and video games. Every parent who is about to write a check for college tuition should read this book first and discuss it with his or her son...and daughter."
— Michael G. Thompson, Ph.D., co-author of Raising Cain: Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys
"Michael Kimmel's Guyland could save the humanity of many young men—and the sanity of their friends and parents—by explaining the forces behind a newly extended adolesence. With accuracy and empathy, he names the problem and offers compassionate bridges to adulthood."
"Guyland takes up where Real Boys left off, giving us a vivid picture of the harrowing effects that the societal “boy code” has upon adolescents on the cusp of manhood. Kimmel interweaves cutting edge data with heart-wrenching stories of young men's struggles. This is a must-read for parents, teachers, coaches, young women who are so confused by the guys in their midst—and for guys themselves who yearn to break free of unwritten rules that leave them half a man, rather than a whole person.”
—William Pollack, author of